When working with fathers entering into divorce or who have recently divorced there is a 5-step process through which I assist them in identifying and implementing an action plan for their lives. Throughout this Dads Guide to Divorce series I will be sharing this specific process with detailed ways in which you can utilized it in order to achieve an amazing life for you and your children.
Step 1 — Clarify Your Vision and Direction
When entering into divorce or beginning life post divorce many men including myself struggle with clarifying a vision and direction for our lives. Divorce is traumatic and men experience an immense amount of pain and suffering during the process. I know that I did and I want each of you to know that this is common. The feelings and emotions that come up are often overwhelming. The loss of your partner, not seeing your children, future uncertainty, financial fears, etc. are just the tip of the iceberg of a sea of feelings. Allow yourself to experience these emotions and feelings. You are not alone and if you have the means, find a coach or therapist that will assist you with sorting through them. If you don’t have the means find a support or men’s group. READ MORE...
Lately, I’ve noticed a common misconception arising in the work that I do with men, specifically divorced fathers. That is the notion that sacrifice is bad and should be avoided at all costs.
The word sacrifice is defined as…
Sacrifice (verb): to suffer loss of, give up, renounce, injure, or destroy especially for an ideal, belief, or end
Sacrifice has taken on this negative connotation in modern day society. It seems that everywhere we look, we see and hear the same message about getting and having everything that we want and getting it now! READ MORE AT MEDIUM.COM
"A friend of mine recently told me he was getting divorced from his wife of over 20 years. I wasn’t surprised at all. Over the past 5 years, I’ve watched this friend shift his belief system and identity. He’s not the same person he was 5 years ago. He doesn’t want the same things he wanted 5, 10, or 20 years ago. His imagined future self no longer involves him being married to the woman he once believed he would be with forever.
My friend’s choice is his own. My interest as a psychologist is understanding how these things happen.
This article explains how our identity and goals are formed. It also shows how you can intentionally “slow boil” yourself into whoever you want to be. Indeed, we have all slow boiled into the person we are now and are actively slow-boiling into someone.
The question is: Who are you “slow-boiling” into? And are you slow-boiling into the person you really want to be? Eventually, the slow boil becomes a point of no return — and you’re no longer the same person." READ MORE
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Nir Eyal: Why did you write your book?
Ryan Holiday: Stillness is this timeless idea that appears in almost every religion and every ancient school of philosophy. People have been complaining about how busy and overwhelmed they are for thousands of years–and about the need to slow down. Yet when you say the word stillness, it feels very urgent and timely. I suppose we are actually busier than we've ever been before, but it's a pretty timeless problem. We're all trying to get to that thing that Cal Newport calls “deep work.” We're trying to get to a place where, as crazy as things are on the outside, we can be calm and clear on the inside. This allows us to do what's really important, whether that's being a father, being an author, or accomplishing whatever it is you are trying to do in this life. READ MORE
"Given the media climate, as well as the extreme marketing made available through social media, and the cocaine-like addiction we have to our smartphones — it can be incredibly difficult to be purposeful, focused, and happy.
If you do not create and control your environment, you’ll be distracted at best. More likely, you’ll be debilitated and defeatist. You’ll become pessimistic and reactive. Your hope and perspective will become darkened by the noise and confusion all around you." READ MORE
Your subconscious mind works continuously, while you are awake, and while you sleep“.”
— Napoleon Hill
Your subconscious never rests and is always on duty because it controls your heartbeat, blood circulation, and digestion. It controls all the vital processes and functions of your body and knows the answers to all your problems.
What happens on your subconscious level influences what happens on your conscious level. In other words, what goes on internally, even unconsciously, eventually becomes your reality. As Hill further states, “The subconscious mind will translate into its physical equivalent, by the most direct and practical method available.”
The goal, then, is to master how to utilize your unconscious mind. When you learn how to master your unconscious, you quite literally become the creator of your world. READ MORE
Everyone struggles with dwindling or misplaced motivation from time to time, and I'm no exception. Thankfully, I've learned to overcome my penchant for procrastination: getting what I want done, even when I don't feel like it. Learning the difference between the two kinds of motivation, extrinsic and intrinsic, made all the difference. READ MORE
You’ve probably seen it by now — that YouTube vid that careens through 10 painstaking hours of walking through NYC as a woman. In it, she — all while avoiding eye contact — runs a gauntlet of come-ons, creepings, catcalls and conversation non-starters. A lot of them say “hello” or call her “beautiful.” I dare you to watch it without wincing.
You might be saying to yourself, “Well … I don’t see what’s so bad about saying hello or paying a compliment.” I think that’s a valid point and one worth addressing. We’ll do so here.
Traditional goal-setting is dangerous. Extraordinary By Design unveils a fundamentally new way to think about your life and your goals. When you look at your goals as tools to get the experiences that make you happy, grow rapidly, and contribute to the world — you can then break your life down into 12 distinct areas. These 12 areas are so interconnected that when one is lacking, it will pull down the others. But when you elevate one, it with elevate your entire life. This is how you become Extraordinary By Design.
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